A tip to avoid being a card-carrying cyber dating geek.

I was reading about a new dating service in the New York Times that blurs the line between Online cyber dating and traditional dating. At first look it appears to be kind of cool, but is it? You decide...

Here's how it works. You sign up for a free singles site where you get to post your Online dating profile - nothing new here. Then, for a fee (between $5 and $25) they will send you some business cards with a code identifying the secret location of your Online profile. Then, when you are out-and-about in the real world, if you see somebody that you think is dateable, you simply pass him or her one of your cards. If the recipient is single and interested, s/he can head to the dating website address on the card and check out your dating profile.

Pretty exciting eh?

Well if you think that the concept will work, I can save you between $5 and $25 in the next two minutes.

Here's how to do it for free. Just create a dating profile at www.CyberDating.net and write down the URL of your personal profile on a scrap of paper. Even better, take a full sheet of paper and tear it into business card size pieces and write your first name and the address to your CyberDating profile on each. Then give the pieces of paper to the strangers that interest you while you are out living your off-line life.

The cool thing is that, instead of looking like a desperate geek handing out business cards to hot singles, it will look like you are sincerely interested in the person and that you are more than a little spontaneous. Freaks hand out business cards in a bar, the cool kids write little love notes and pass them discreetly ;)

Cheers,
Tucker

How to Write an Effective Online Dating Profile - Stay Upbeat

Recently a friend posted her profile on CyberDating and she asked me for my expert opinion on it. Well frankly, it needed some work.

She made two really basic mistakes.

The first mistake is that she started out with a downer. While she thought that she was being upbeat writing about how she's back for another kick-at-the-cat with Online dating, but it sounded so ho-hum that it hurt. My advice is to forget about telling the other singles that you've ever tried Online dating before. Start out being funny. Your audience is full of lonely, bored singles - you don't want to be one of them. Show them your nutty side and break the ice quickly.

After a few days of CyberDating, her feedback to me was that the wrong kind of guys were contacting her and she was frustrated. That brings me to her second mistake. She didn't say what she was looking for in a prospective mate. Even though she is athletic, she really desires an intellectual guy. So, for goodness sake, say what you want. You shouldn't be too exacting because you'll sound like you are too picky, but listing a few of your deal breakers will really help both you and your prospective date to avoid some unnecessary keystrokes.

Good luck,
Tucker